Hello dear one,
I hope you’re doing alright. I know that life is weird and hard right now for many – uncertainty, disagreement, and fear abound.
Even if you’ve got a robust kit of self-help tools you might find yourself zapped of energy, feeling more anxious than usual, and struggling to make sense of why.
And as we continue to grapple with physical distancing and an inability to see and squeeze our people, I know how important social media has become to staying connected.
It’s where we find our friends, information about creative or political interests, entertainment and levity, and the community that most of us are lacking in real life.
But if social media has been a struggle for you – if rather than community you’ve felt overwhelm, inauthenticity, annoyance, sadness, or anxiety – you might be in a toxic relationship with social media that’s actually contributing to the difficulties you’re facing in the current moment.
Did you know that the average adult spends between 1-2 hours on social media per day? (Compare that with how much time you spend 1:1 with your spouse, kids, or other loved ones.)
That equates to around 3-6 years of life when totaled up.
3-6 YEARS OF YOUR LIFE – which sounds pretty dire if that relationship is toxic.
Here’s the toxicity I’m talking about:
You kinda love it but you also hate it; it’s where you connect with loved ones/find community but it’s also where you feel addicted, anxious, insecure, and overwhelmed.
You vacillate between wasting way too much time there and swearing it off (and deleting) the apps completely - only to reactivate a few months later.
Does this sound familiar?
Before you run screaming toward a screen-free commune in the hills, what if I told you that these 3-6 years could actually serve your highest growth as a human?
WHAT IF I TOLD YOU THAT ACKNOWLEDGING AND BECOMING CONSCIOUS OF THIS RELATIONSHIP COULD MAKE YOUR OFFLINE “REAL” LIFE EVEN RICHER?
Imagine if social media brought you:
- Actual friendships (and not just “followers”)
- People who knew and loved the REAL authentic you
- A feeling of hope, motivation, inspiration, and connection when you logged off
- Balance and consciousness in how you interact on and offline
- Greater awareness of yourself, what you want, and what you don’t want in life
It may sound far fetched, but having a positive relationship with social media is totally possible. And believe me, I didn’t used to think so either.
Because while I love social media today, I used to hate it with a vengeance. I felt drained from the time wasted, toxic arguments, sad state of the world, and a nagging feeling that people didn’t really even know me (just like I didn’t really know them.)
The phony “highlight reel” would get me down, and news about the world would ramp my anxiety UP – until repeatedly I’d just delete the sites completely to save my mental health and “real” life.
Except when I deleted the sites completely, I always felt sadness about missing the stuff I really liked about social media.
I’d miss catching up with distant friends, communing with people around the world who shared my unique interests, connecting professionally and creatively, and sharing events and feelings from my own life that felt somehow more profound when they were witnessed by others.
(There’s a reason so many people share heartfelt tributes to those who have passed or aren’t even on social media; the act of sharing our feelings and our lives can infuse meaning and importance where we otherwise may have felt an amplified loneliness.)
When social media shined for me, it really shined – but it didn’t seem worth all the messiness and toxicity.
Until one day something shifted.
Through a series of serendipitous events I began to realize that things bothering me on social media overlapped with issues I had in my real life. As I became conscious of these real-life issues and beliefs, I began to change the way I engaged online. And when I changed the way I approached these apps, it was like they changed completely too – because I had.
Now I’m on a mission to free other people from the toxic social media dance, because I know that when you change the way you approach social media, you’ll also change the rest of your life. When we acknowledge that we are active participants in this relationship, we gain the ability to change what we get from it.
So if you’re tired of feeling
overwhelmed with the state of the world
confusion about how to navigate online conflict
anxiety about your life and how it may compare to others
shackled to social media because of professional obligations or to market your business
like you have to delete the apps in order to save your sanity
anxious, confused, and depressed when you’re done scrolling
I DESIGNED “THE ART OF SOCIAL MEDIA” FOR YOU.
In this course you’ll learn how to:
identify what’s wrong with your current social media relationship
draw a connection between social media and real life issues
feel authentic and “real” on social media (even if you need to use for business)
identify and change the way you’re showing up online (and in life)
decide what you WANT to get from social media apps
take measurable action to get the results you want on social media and in life
Create a conscious, balanced, healthy relationship that changes both your online life and your “real” one going forward
Some facts about the course:
It starts August 10th
It’ll come to you in seven daily lessons (that you have access to forever)
You’ll be encircled by an awesome community of rad people having the same shift you are
I’ll be there offering support, guidance, and clarity
The full cost is $179 but I’m currently offering it at a short-term maiden voyage price of $129
Now is the time to come claim your spot in this community of rad people who are ready to change everything.
Because when we realize that our online life is simply a microcosm of our “real” life, we alchemize the awareness and power needed to live the life that we really want.
Click below to start filling your years with more awareness, power, and authenticity today.
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Keep going, you’re doing better than you think.
xo
Melissa