Change

If You're Hurting, You're Not Doing It Wrong: Being a Sensitive Human in a Changing World

Whether it’s their interests, bedtime routines, or shoe sizes, it seems like as soon as I’ve settled into “we are reading Inside Out every night” my kids are changing again, and I’m left holding the book. As much effort as I put into letting go, allowing them to be and develop and grow into these new humans on a daily basis, as much as I attempt to practice the “your children are not your children” idea, breathing into the now and welcoming the new phases, the truth is…I also feel grief. If you do too, you’re not doing it wrong.

Trust the Next Step: How Each Part of Our Path is Connected

When I started writing online five years ago, I talked a lot about life purpose and finding the right career. My focus as a coach was helping people to find work that lit them up, and then helping them be brave enough to think they deserved to do it. But I’ve changed a lot in these past five years. I don’t really talk about these things anymore because I am no longer sure how I feel about them. I have been busy unpacking how capitalism, patriarchy, and the conditioning of hustle culture infiltrated how I thought about work, meaning, and “life purpose.” It’s a lot of unlearning. It’s been humbling. But there’s one thing that’s clear as I look in the rearview mirror…

How Changing a Toxic Relationship to Social Media Changes Your Real Life Too

The average adult will spend 3-6 years of their life on social media. Before you start running for a screen free commune, what if I told you that same 3-6 years could make you feel more peaceful, truthful, connected, and serve your highest growth as a human? Here’s how to heal your relationship to social media and change your life in the process.

Get Off the Wrong Life Path: How to Make a Change, Live with Purpose, and Find Your Truth

I know there’s a moment in your past when you KNEW you were walking the wrong way (in a job, relationship, creative endeavor, etc) but you just kept going because you’d already put so much work in.

You told yourself it was commitment (“I’m just working hard/staying the path/not giving up”) but you felt tired all the time, didn’t like yourself, and began resenting everything and everybody in this particular life arena.

And then eventually, things exploded anyway.

Guess what? You can learn from this. Today.

Showing Up Flawed: How to Train Your Brain and Ditch Perfectionism

You do not have to be ready, an expert, or always be sure in order to share yourself or your ideas with the world. Imperfect selves and work are how we get to be the people (and have the lives) that we want. You’re going to get things wrong sometimes. You’re going to stumble, screw up, or just generally look like an amateur. I am too, and that’s the only really brave way to live life. By showing up anyway. But how do we actually do that?

How to Be the Hero of Your Story: Tips on Pain, Re-framing, and Transformation

With all that’s wrong politically (and in the world) it’s easy to want a “hero” in the form of an ideal candidate or sweeping (and quick) change in our system— I know I find myself fantasizing about that.

But that hero has already arrived – and it’s us.

‘We are the ones we’ve been waiting for.’

A Creepy Hitchhiker Taught Me About Certainty: How to Stop Waiting to Make Decisions About Life

The man who had looked like a funky hippie from afar looked pretty sketchy and creepy up close. His body had a strange tick and some teeth were missing; though the years have dulled my memory, I specifically recall that his eyes had this terrifying look – a look that we all register deep down in our animal body. Is this what it means to be certain?

Removing the Mask: How to Be Who You Are and Deal with People Leaving

I’ve never had as many people unsubscribe from my blog as I have in the past few months – we’re talking some big digits - it’s been wild.

Seeing that I’d lost subscribers was something that used to get me really down– it made me think: “Did I offend them? Overwhelm them?” Or the highest offense in my book…“Was I boring?”

Turns out, I was on the exact right track…

It's Not Hard To Get Sober: How Recovery from Addiction Showed Me What Else I can Do

All you’ve really gotta do in order to be physically sober is NOT get high, drunk, or generally partake in things that alter your mind or body.

No, the real work when I got clean was examining all the things that made me need to escape my life in the first place: